Today’s Mother’s Day. And tomorrow is my Mom’s 64th birthday. I’m her older child, she just got started a bit late–years of wild adventures before getting married and having kids. It was a second career, one she relished as much as her first.
There are a lot of things one can buy for a Mom for Mother’s Day or for her birthday. What I’d really like to give her is something that can’t be bought. I’d like to give her a clean bill of health. No more cancer, no more chemo, no more pain, no more narcotics, no more fatigue. I’d like to help her be the Mom who played Mommy Lion with us when we were little and let us crawl all over her. Or the Mom who was a good sport and played on the parents’ team at my sister’s annual parents vs. kids soccer games. Or the Mom who would sit in the dressing room at Tech Week all-night rehearsals of the Nutcracker and get her Christmas cards done…or work on costumes.
I wish I could give her the health and energy to do the things she loves to without worrying about tiring out, without feeling pain, without being concerned about adrenaline causing Carcinoid syndrome. No more doctors, no more hospitals.
But there are things I can give her over the next year and, I hope, many years to come.
Now that I’m not working on weekends, I can visit more often. I helped her out with a Spring project and should be able to do more this summer. I can also bring my handy and helpful husband.
Now that I have annual leave, I can come to a big family get-together this summer.
The biggest thing I’d like to give my mom this year is time. While in college, I didn’t have a car and had to worry about grades, etc. My first year out, I was working such crazy and diverse schedules that it was hard to find a free day. Now I finally have time, and instead of filling it with things that won’t matter in another 5 or 10 years, I’d rather spend it with her.
Also, she’s getting a book if she’ll just get me her book wishlist. 😉