Comments on: Weddings and Wedding Favors: a Chance for Real Frugality

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 29 May 2008 02:57:01 +0000

We didn’t have any favors; since I’ve never kept a favor, it was a no-brainer fo rme. I don’t think anyone even noticed. They were too busy having a good time. I totally agree that if you want favors, go with something edible. Only a small portion of your guests really want to take a token home.

By: Bettsi

Bettsi — Wed, 28 May 2008 23:47:08 +0000

One of my favorite favors for just about any occasion is to remove the outer wrapper from a Hershey’s bar and put on a cute one that commemorates the occasion or just matches the decor. Who doesn’t enjoy a chocolate bar? But you are right, who needs a favor anyway? I love these wedding posts!

By: Ewokgirl

Ewokgirl — Tue, 27 May 2008 15:22:23 +0000

Personally, I find wedding favors to be a colossal waste of money. It’s a wedding, not a kid’s birthday party, so why have favors anyway? I’ve never kept any of them.

Reading the comment about a bride being upset about a candle favor actually being used made me laugh. Unfortunately, most couples are so caught up in their wedding that they forget or don’t realize that it’s not the most important day/event to anyone else. Of course, it’s their most important day, but other people have their own special days/events. I find it sheer hubris for couples to actually think that their guests are wanting to hang Christmas ornaments with their wedding date on their trees. Or display candles or other knick-knacks with their names and wedding date.

If you must have wedding favors, go with something edible or useful, like seeds for a garden. It’s not a waste of money if it is actually used. Anything else is typically tossed in the trash.

By: plonkee

plonkee — Thu, 22 May 2008 21:08:32 +0000

Favours have only recently come into fashion in the UK and I hate them (bloomin’ Americans getting into everything ). I don’t want anything embossed with the name of the bride or groom or floating candles or…

Having said that, when a couple that I know got married recently, they had chocolate truffles which absolutely rocked. Plus Xmas crackers (it was a Xmas/Dec wedding) and we wore the silly hats and told the not funny jokes so that was pretty good.

By: Clean Simple

Clean Simple — Thu, 22 May 2008 16:55:31 +0000

Great ideas here! The best wedding “favour” I got was being offered a couple of hydrangeas that were part of the decoration. A wedding should be about the joining of two people with their friends and families witnessing, not about the stuff.

By: deepali

deepali — Thu, 22 May 2008 14:19:42 +0000

I have found wedding favors to be one of the more useless expenses in wedding planning – a lot of people don’t seem to take the item with them, so the married couple ends up with lots of leftover stuff (especially if they did something inedible).

When my brother got married, he had some 500+ people at the wedding – that’s a lot of candles/picture frames/chocolate!
So instead of a favor, he made a donation to an awesome charity, and we printed little cards and placed them on all the seats.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Thu, 22 May 2008 14:12:07 +0000

I’m getting married in August. We are not having favors for the very reason that most times they get thrown away or shoved in the back of a drawer. Our wedding is already bigger (285 people!) and more expensive than I would have liked, so we’re trying to keep costs down where we can.

By: Laura

Laura — Thu, 22 May 2008 13:45:55 +0000

My mother in law made choclate lollipops. They were a hit at the wedding reception.

By: Greener Pastures

Greener Pastures — Thu, 22 May 2008 10:52:23 +0000

My fav part of our wedding was asking my spouses two musical daughters (19 and 24 yrs old), and 4 of our musical friends, to sing “Going to the Chapel” a capella. We sent them the music before -hand, and they arrived early so they could get a rehearsal in. They were just great. Other than the kiss, it’s my fondest – of which there are many -memory of the day-
Fun post, Mrs Micah!
Best to you, Pinyo!

By: Meg

Meg — Thu, 22 May 2008 04:14:27 +0000

I’m not a big fan for most wedding favors. Really, I try to avoid taking most unless they are food or somehow useful to me (which they rarely, if ever, are). I’d rather that people save their money than buy plastic doves or mini scrolls or some other dust collector with their names and wedding date on it. I’ll just toss those things at first chance. If they want to spend money, then it’s better spent on good food and drinks, or nicer gifts for those people closest to them.

As for my husband and I, we were going to have purple Hershey’s kisses, but totally forgot the two bags we had bought

However, we did announce to our guests that they could take home the decorations, lots of tea lights in glass votive holders as well as some floating candles in punch bowls of water. We got them for cheap at a craft store — much less than we would have spent for custom floral arrangements. Anyhow, you should have seen the rush for the candles!!! I was worried that I’d have to pry people from the candles (which they were quickly dousing) in order to get them to come out and throw rice. It is nice, though, to see people still using the votive holders in their homes almost seven years later.