And happy Mother’s day to all the mothers out there. Through some twist of fate called “I’m not a mother and am low on the library totem pole because I’m newer,” I will be working this afternoon and will l therefore neither be visiting my own mother or my MIL. (I should make sure Micah told her.)
I’ve seen a number of posts this week about really celebrating Mother’s day and not just making it a time to give an expensive gift. They’ve talked about spending time with Mom and letting her know how much you love her.
Fortunately, Mother’s day isn’t the only day out of the year that you can show your mom how much you love her. We’re time-shifting Mother’s day by a week, which should work. And each of our moms is getting special presents—-and we’re going to spend time with them. We’ll go to church with his mom, since she loves to have us there. Then lunch. Then dinner/evening with my family.
But Mother’s day shouldn’t be once a year. I’m fortunate enough to love my mom a LOT. That’s probably because she was an awesome mom growing up and continues to be, even though I’m farther away. There are a million ways to let your mom know any day how much you love her (if you do, maybe your mom sucked…it could happen).
Phone calls, e-mails, visits, especially if you’re in the area. For free calling, sign up with Skype. If you’ve both got good internet connections and microphone headsets (which can be acquired cheaply and are a one-time expense) you can have long conversations for free. Or maybe you have unlimited in-network calling with your cell phone providers.
I sometimes feel sad that I talk with my mom less now that I’m not living with her. But we do carry on conversations via the blog and e-mail and the occasional phone call.
It doesn’t have to be every day, but it can be any day. So if you can’t celebrate Mother’s day for some reason, don’t just wait until next year. You might as well start working on a date that’ll work for both of you or plan a phone call or e-mail her. Just stay in touch. That’ll mean the world.
(Incidentally, this is also my Mother’s birthday, which made me particularly disappointed not to be able to go up. However, nobody switches shifts for Mother’s day and I’m not comfortable just skipping work.)
For some other Mother’s day posts, try:
PaidTwice is reflecting on marketing and Mother’s day. They got to her!!
Jeff of MySuperChargedLife has come up with some things he thinks moms would really like for Mother’s day. I think he’s probably right.
Pinyo came up with some gift ideas…if you’re still looking! Patrick has more frugal but thoughtful gift ideas. Lazy Man suggests you give her what she actually wants…which may not be expensive diamonds.