Warning, Bourne Ultimatum spoiler ahead.
In the final Bourne movie, Jason Bourne finally discovers his true identity. He discovers who and what made him into a completely new person, an assassin. And the truth is: he made Jason Bourne.
Certainly, the creepy government agents helped. They were the ones who stripped his brain of his past…but he consented beforehand. He even insisted. They turned him into a trained killer at his own request.
He did it because he thought it would be the right thing to do. But after his accident, he found himself questioning all that. Ironically, he couldn’t remember that this had been his own decision. Instead, he blamed others.
In the same way, I think we often find ourselves wondering “wait…how did I get here?” “Who made me this person?”
The answer is—primarily, you did.
It’s time for the usual disclaimer that there are a lot of things in life that we can’t control. Those things also shape who we become. But what really truly shapes us is how we respond to them. Victor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor psychologist, wrote about Man’s Search for Meaning and came up with the theory that people can react well to even the worst situation. In fact, that’s how they survive.
The good news is this means you can make yourself into who you’re going to be.
If you’re in debt, who you’re becoming will still be in debt. But maybe that person is headed out of debt. The you of becoming doesn’t have to be in debt forever. You get to choose how and who you want to be. If you have decided that you hate debt, you can cultivate a life where you no longer get into debt. You can cultivate a life where you’re getting out of debt.
What you’re doing every day is a part of becoming. Maybe you’re becoming more and more sedentary. Maybe you’re becoming deeper and deeper in debt. But I hope that you’re becoming more and more peaceful, more and more fulfilled, more and more debt-free.
If you’re like me, you’ve still got a long ways to go. But that’s ok. Every day is becoming and progress little by little will get you there.