After writing about my wisest and dumbest purchases, I realized why clothes shopping has been an issue for me. I think it’s because when shopping my goal is to get it over with.
It’s not because I don’t like new or pretty clothes, I do. But clothes shopping has never been a real part of my budget and spending plan. It’s always been something I’ve done by necessity. And because I don’t like spending the money, I’m afraid I don’t do a good job of spending it.
Growing up, clothes buying was simply not a part of my life. Until I was about 10 or older, all my clothes came from older cousins. On the one hand it was exciting to have so many free clothes options. On the other, I was limited by what we had “in stock.”
My mom has never been a clothes shopper either, but she did a good job of developing her own cute style and buying clothes that last a long time and suit her style. I’m not sure if I’ve developed that style yet. I’m moving towards it.
So I don’t have a real shopping background. It stresses me. I don’t want to be spending the money and I don’t have the bug to shop around for awesome deals.
This has probably saved me a lot in potential debt.
But settling for “what I need” isn’t always buying what I actually need and will use. Like if I need a pair of black pants, not every pair of black pants that fits me will work. I need some that look good, that will last, that go with my outfits, etc. I have a skirt and a jacket that I bought last summer for this winter (the potentially my dumbest purchase ones) that I just don’t like.
Sometimes it helps to make my own clothes, if I take the time to buy the fabric and pattern that really work for what I want and not just what’ll do.
As it is, I cultivated a tunic look in my senior year of college and I’ve dug those out now that I’m back in semi-casual library land. Some are tunics, others are short dresses which can be worn as tunics (I wouldn’t look good in a short skirt).
So I’m going to keep an eye out for those, I may even pop in periodically at goodwill and the like. But I’m resolved not to buy clothes like it’s a chore, even if it is a chose. I’m resolved to buy them like it’s an investment (in having something to wear, in not stressing about having to get clothes, etc) and think carefully beforehand.
Do you like to shop for clothes and such?