Maybe you’re a highly-confident person all the time. But if you’re like me, you periodically get nervous about making important phone calls, etc. Maybe it’s asking credit card people to lower your interest, or maybe you’re trying to make a new business contact.
The thing is that most of the time the worst that people can actually say is “No.” Probably 99% of the time.
The amount of stress it causes, you’d think they’d burn down our houses, take our kids, destroy our lives, etc.
Some things, like asking for a raise or a day off, may affect your work situation…but if you’re a good sport about it either way and prepare yourself, even a negative answer may not negatively impact your career.
When I had to tell my last boss that I was leaving, I was nervous about how she’d react. I stopped by a church to pray when I had an epiphany. A kind of sarcastic voice in my head said “What’s she going to do? Fire you?”
If she fired me then I’d be quitting a few weeks early. If she started treating me like crap then I could just leave or say “I’m not putting up with this.”
Of course, as things turned out everything went quite smoothly. It was helpful to keep that sarcastic voice in the back of my head to encourage me.
Next time you feel this way, think of the worst thing that could happen. Could they say no? Could they they do more?
If they say no, then it’s time to try the next thing.