Comments on: How Would You Feel if Your Spouse/Partner Broke Your Budget? http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/ Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:33:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: A Rigid Budget Will Die A Quick Death | My Super-Charged Life http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-32087 A Rigid Budget Will Die A Quick Death | My Super-Charged Life Mon, 01 Dec 2008 11:01:17 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-32087 [...] Be sure that you are both in agreement and committed to the plan.  This will help avoid sticky situations as the month plays [...] [...] Be sure that you are both in agreement and committed to the plan.  This will help avoid sticky situations as the month plays [...]

]]> By: Sillyolme http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-28191 Sillyolme Tue, 14 Oct 2008 15:32:57 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-28191 We are married almost 7 years. Second marriage. We had discussions about pooling money and being a team, how we would save. Then he got laid off, started a business. There were issues, but we managed to over come them. We both made some mistakes with it, but now he can't pay himself and we can't pay our personal bills. I have asked him for over a year to declare bankruptcy, instead he refied some equipment and signed a personal guarantee, after I asked him not too (consulted with business attorney first) He wants another 1 to 5 years to get the money we have spent back out of it, but we are sinking fast.....and college for my oldest is just a few months away. He told me to get a part time job. I told him it makes no sense that he works 80 hrs a week and can't pay himself, and I need to work 2 jobs, take care of the house and kids, so he can keep his business. He bounces checks every week - I have given him spreadsheets and done some financial anaylsis....he refuses to look at the numbers, he said I am making them up, even though they come right from bills and bank statements. I am about to leave after 1 year of begging him to give this up. Help We are married almost 7 years. Second marriage. We had discussions about pooling money and being a team, how we would save. Then he got laid off, started a business. There were issues, but we managed to over come them. We both made some mistakes with it, but now he can’t pay himself and we can’t pay our personal bills. I have asked him for over a year to declare bankruptcy, instead he refied some equipment and signed a personal guarantee, after I asked him not too (consulted with business attorney first) He wants another 1 to 5 years to get the money we have spent back out of it, but we are sinking fast…..and college for my oldest is just a few months away. He told me to get a part time job. I told him it makes no sense that he works 80 hrs a week and can’t pay himself, and I need to work 2 jobs, take care of the house and kids, so he can keep his business. He bounces checks every week – I have given him spreadsheets and done some financial anaylsis….he refuses to look at the numbers, he said I am making them up, even though they come right from bills and bank statements. I am about to leave after 1 year of begging him to give this up. Help

]]> By: The Honest Dollar | Is Your Valentine Being Financially Unfaithful? http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-11364 The Honest Dollar | Is Your Valentine Being Financially Unfaithful? Thu, 14 Feb 2008 14:11:23 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-11364 [...] What about emergencies? [...] [...] What about emergencies? [...]

]]> By: Jenni http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-6799 Jenni Mon, 21 Jan 2008 22:36:15 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-6799 I think that most couples should have separate bank accounts - my hubby and I have had this for years and so did my ex-husband and I. If you want to buy your spouse a gift - they always know what it costs if you have a joint account - no way! I think that most couples should have separate bank accounts – my hubby and I have had this for years and so did my ex-husband and I. If you want to buy your spouse a gift – they always know what it costs if you have a joint account – no way!

]]> By: Carnival of Personal Finance is Up! Head over to Plonkee! | Green Panda Treehouse http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-6315 Carnival of Personal Finance is Up! Head over to Plonkee! | Green Panda Treehouse Wed, 16 Jan 2008 23:52:28 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-6315 [...] Micah: Finance for a Freelance Life asked How Would You Feel if Your Spouse/Partner Broke Your Budget. Being married, this post caught my attention right away. So far, we’re doing ok with this, [...] [...] Micah: Finance for a Freelance Life asked How Would You Feel if Your Spouse/Partner Broke Your Budget. Being married, this post caught my attention right away. So far, we’re doing ok with this, [...]

]]> By: Amanda @ Me vs Debt http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-6030 Amanda @ Me vs Debt Tue, 15 Jan 2008 11:29:17 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-6030 Good morning, Mrs. Micah. I'm single with total control over my money, but I am in a relationship where we openly discuss purchases and money spent. I feel like we're on track for a healthy financial relationship. When we do consolidate our finances I imagine we'll maintain a degree of individual spending freedom outside of what we decide to spend and save together. Good morning, Mrs. Micah. I’m single with total control over my money, but I am in a relationship where we openly discuss purchases and money spent. I feel like we’re on track for a healthy financial relationship. When we do consolidate our finances I imagine we’ll maintain a degree of individual spending freedom outside of what we decide to spend and save together.

]]> By: Monroe on a budget » Blog Archive » Fresh ideas at Jan. 14 Carnival of Personal Finance http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-5969 Monroe on a budget » Blog Archive » Fresh ideas at Jan. 14 Carnival of Personal Finance Tue, 15 Jan 2008 02:02:46 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-5969 [...] Micah at Finance for a Freelance Life presents How Would You Feel if Your Spouse/Partner Broke Your Budget? The post sparked a pretty lively conversations on her comment [...] [...] Micah at Finance for a Freelance Life presents How Would You Feel if Your Spouse/Partner Broke Your Budget? The post sparked a pretty lively conversations on her comment [...]

]]> By: Moneymonk http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-5924 Moneymonk Mon, 14 Jan 2008 19:29:58 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-5924 @mrsmoneymaker- maybe he wants you to take care of it. Most men was not told how to budget, handle bills, etc. Most women just take the responsibility, it's not until later to become stressed out over it. Find out his goals and ambitions and then use that as a goal. If "we" do this now then you will get [ his dreams ] later" He may not feel apart of the money because he does not see what he gets out of it. Give him a reason @mrsmoneymaker- maybe he wants you to take care of it.

Most men was not told how to budget, handle bills, etc. Most women just take the responsibility, it’s not until later to become stressed out over it.

Find out his goals and ambitions and then use that as a goal. If “we” do this now then you will get [ his dreams ] later”

He may not feel apart of the money because he does not see what he gets out of it. Give him a reason

]]> By: carnival of personal finance: photo quiz edition : plonkee money http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-5857 carnival of personal finance: photo quiz edition : plonkee money Mon, 14 Jan 2008 10:03:10 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-5857 [...] Micah from Mrs. Micah: Finance for a Freelance Life presents How Would You Feel if Your Spouse/Partner Broke Your Budget. I get around this problem by having neither a spouse, nor a partner, but each to their own [...] [...] Micah from Mrs. Micah: Finance for a Freelance Life presents How Would You Feel if Your Spouse/Partner Broke Your Budget. I get around this problem by having neither a spouse, nor a partner, but each to their own [...]

]]> By: Saturday Roundup - I Should Do More Roundups Edition | Mrs. Micah: Finance for a Freelance Life http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-5633 Saturday Roundup - I Should Do More Roundups Edition | Mrs. Micah: Finance for a Freelance Life Sat, 12 Jan 2008 02:55:56 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2008/01/09/how-would-you-feel-if-your-spousepartner-broke-your-budget/#comment-5633 [...] my piece on your spouse breaking the budget? Lily at The Honest Dollar wrote a guest post this week on Millionaire Mommy Next Door’s site [...] [...] my piece on your spouse breaking the budget? Lily at The Honest Dollar wrote a guest post this week on Millionaire Mommy Next Door’s site [...]

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