This afternoon, I was doing some stuff and watching Dr. Phil’s show about women who are desperate to become moms. In one of the couples, the wife is really desperate to try to get through her PCOS and become pregnant. She even considered using her credit card to go into debt for the treatments when her husband said that he didn’t want to keep paying for them since they weren’t really working.
So often, it’s easy to say that all debt is bad (except maybe mortgages). Golbguru at the Tao of Making Money wrote today about debt being a way to buy time. This couple obviously has some tough decisions to make—when is it a lost cause? While I don’t approve of mindlessly getting into debt, I can understand why the wife would want to go into debt for babies.
They only have so much time to where it’s possible to have a baby. It’s something that means a lot to the wife and her husband realy wants a baby–though he’s feeling ready to give up.
It’s a decision they should make together, of course, so it’s good for them that she chose to go on Dr. Phil rather than do it secretly on the side.
Are infertility treatments a good debt?
It’s a heartbreaking situation. I don’t currently have that passion to become a mother (I think I’d like to be one, just not yet), but if I felt what these women feel and if I had to go into debt to get a baby, I don’t know what I’d do.
A baby isn’t a fancy car, a big house, even a stylish handbag. Dr. Phil pointed out that those are just things. A baby is person, a relationship.
I might choose to adopt because it’s more guaranteed than infertility treatments…but I really want to have my own child. I don’t know. I do believe that a child is a worth it.
(Nina at Queercents has also been writing about this, as she and her partner are trying to become pregnant.)