Comments on: If this were your daughter… http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 09:03:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: A mother’s gentle insight | On Financial Success http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-4138 A mother’s gentle insight | On Financial Success Tue, 25 Dec 2007 08:25:59 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-4138 [...] One day a little girl was told her family couldn’t afford something. She wondered out loud if they were poor. Her mother responded: [...] [...] One day a little girl was told her family couldn’t afford something. She wondered out loud if they were poor. Her mother responded: [...]

]]> By: Paying it Forward – How it relates to bringing up our children « Father sez…… http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-2044 Paying it Forward – How it relates to bringing up our children « Father sez…… Thu, 06 Dec 2007 11:35:45 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-2044 [...] one of my advance New Year wishes is for the two young ladies featured in Mrs. Micah’s, “If this were your daughter…….”  be made aware of this concept of “paying it forward”, and see their father in a completely [...] [...] one of my advance New Year wishes is for the two young ladies featured in Mrs. Micah’s, “If this were your daughter…….”  be made aware of this concept of “paying it forward”, and see their father in a completely [...]

]]> By: wealthy_1 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-2032 wealthy_1 Thu, 06 Dec 2007 00:56:29 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-2032 Yeah, and your mom's cool! Yeah, and your mom’s cool!

]]> By: mrsmicah http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1967 mrsmicah Wed, 05 Dec 2007 00:27:08 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1967 My mom's deep. :) My mom’s deep. :)

]]> By: Aaron Stroud http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1965 Aaron Stroud Tue, 04 Dec 2007 23:18:45 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1965 "I said that we were not, that poor people couldn’t afford things they needed, that rich people could afford anything they wanted, and that we were in the middle, able to afford all that we needed and many, many things that we just wanted." Beautifully put. Mrs. Micah's Mother, I'm going to have to quote you on this someday because that was sublime. “I said that we were not, that poor people couldn’t afford things they needed, that rich people could afford anything they wanted, and that we were in the middle, able to afford all that we needed and many, many things that we just wanted.”

Beautifully put. Mrs. Micah’s Mother, I’m going to have to quote you on this someday because that was sublime.

]]> By: Mom http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1931 Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2007 09:58:00 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1931 I wonder if the father and mother ever discussed their financial worries in presence of their children as their daughter grew up. Many parents don't, possibly for fear that the children will feel insecure or perhaps out of pride. If she knew her parents' financial concerns, surely she would feel less entitled to whatever she wants or whatever her friends have. On the other hand, children do brood over perceived problems which seem to their parents quite solvable; so, complete openness may not be the best with all children. I remember once, when I told Mrs. Micah (not that she was MrsMicah then) that we couldn't afford something, she asked if we were poor. I said that we were not, that poor people couldn't afford things they needed, that rich people could afford anything they wanted, and that we were in the middle, able to afford all that we needed and many, many things that we just wanted. If she could misinterpret our financial situation so greatly, perhaps parents do have to take some care in sharing money worries. Still, now MrsMicah understands money matters better than I do. MrsMicah's Mom I wonder if the father and mother ever discussed their financial worries in presence of their children as their daughter grew up. Many parents don’t, possibly for fear that the children will feel insecure or perhaps out of pride. If she knew her parents’ financial concerns, surely she would feel less entitled to whatever she wants or whatever her friends have. On the other hand, children do brood over perceived problems which seem to their parents quite solvable; so, complete openness may not be the best with all children.

I remember once, when I told Mrs. Micah (not that she was MrsMicah then) that we couldn’t afford something, she asked if we were poor. I said that we were not, that poor people couldn’t afford things they needed, that rich people could afford anything they wanted, and that we were in the middle, able to afford all that we needed and many, many things that we just wanted. If she could misinterpret our financial situation so greatly, perhaps parents do have to take some care in sharing money worries. Still, now MrsMicah understands money matters better than I do.

MrsMicah’s Mom

]]> By: Julie http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1928 Julie Tue, 04 Dec 2007 05:39:37 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1928 I'm about their age and I doubt my parents would ever even consider giving me a card like that! I got a small allowance that I could use for whatever I wanted, but beyond that I had to make the money I wanted to spend. I think it's ok to help get your kids started and help with large necessary expenses, like traveling home for the holidays or first apartments, but after that they should be responsible for themselves! I’m about their age and I doubt my parents would ever even consider giving me a card like that! I got a small allowance that I could use for whatever I wanted, but beyond that I had to make the money I wanted to spend. I think it’s ok to help get your kids started and help with large necessary expenses, like traveling home for the holidays or first apartments, but after that they should be responsible for themselves!

]]> By: fathersez http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1925 fathersez Tue, 04 Dec 2007 03:42:44 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1925 A great story. I have 5 kids, so an attitude like this in our family will send my wife and I to the poorhouse. We are trying our best to teach our children a more responsible attitude to spending. It is tough, like Aaron said. The peer groups are .......out there. It looks like there is a lot of truth in an interesting quote I read, "children will never be able to pay back their parents, their kids collect from them....and so on.." A great story.

I have 5 kids, so an attitude like this in our family will send my wife and I to the poorhouse.

We are trying our best to teach our children a more responsible attitude to spending.

It is tough, like Aaron said. The peer groups are …….out there.

It looks like there is a lot of truth in an interesting quote I read,

“children will never be able to pay back their parents, their kids collect from them….and so on..”

]]> By: Aaron Stroud http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1922 Aaron Stroud Tue, 04 Dec 2007 02:23:48 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1922 Wealhy_1, you're right. It is essential that you start when your kids are just learning how to interact with people because most of their peers are going to be getting all of the wrong messages from their parents. They're going to see their peers getting whatever they ask for (money, presents, and activities). The odds are stacked against our kids, so it's important to start teaching the right values from day one. Wealhy_1, you’re right. It is essential that you start when your kids are just learning how to interact with people because most of their peers are going to be getting all of the wrong messages from their parents.

They’re going to see their peers getting whatever they ask for (money, presents, and activities). The odds are stacked against our kids, so it’s important to start teaching the right values from day one.

]]> By: mrsmicah http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1921 mrsmicah Tue, 04 Dec 2007 01:19:25 +0000 http://financefreelancelife.com/2007/12/01/if-this-were-your-daughter/#comment-1921 My parents used to do something like that with $.25. It didn't split quite as well, but it worked too. Gosh I had a small allowance (it was $.10 before it was $.25...I could get 10% of it just by finding a penny)! My parents used to do something like that with $.25. It didn’t split quite as well, but it worked too. Gosh I had a small allowance (it was $.10 before it was $.25…I could get 10% of it just by finding a penny)!

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