Sometimes I get really down. I feel like a failure and seeing the work I need to get done just makes me feel worse. I have no energy or motivation to get started. This can be anything from sewing a purse (and I made lots of progress on a beautiful one tonight!) to cleaning a bathroom to…well…it might work if you’re writing, but you might not be able to focus.
Tonight, I was having a hard time getting to the purse. I knew the next step, everything had gone well so far, but I was feeling like a loser and losers can’t make purses (labeling). So I put on a special mix CD I have. (No iPod–I’m such a Luddite 😛 )
I call it “Tristesse” and it’s basically a mix of my favorite depressing songs. It seems counter intuitive, right? But when I put it on I sing along. And the act of singing helps me acknowledge my bad feelings and find the energy to start working. Happier songs just don’t click, it feels too forced.
I sat down at my sewing machine and sang along. Before I knew it, I’d made great strides on the purse. So I followed it up with a Weezer mix CD. Happier but not too happy (my Weezer mix includes such songs as “Butterfly,” “The Sweater Song” and “Pink Triangle” on the more depressing side and “Beverly Hills,” “We are all on drugs,” “Buddy Holly,” and “Falling for You” on the (more) upbeat side).
Now my dark mood has lifted and I’m almost finished the purse. Plus I feel really good about myself for making so much progress.
1. Acknowledge your bad mood–if you’re sad do sad songs, if you’re angry do angry songs. Maybe make mixes of your favorites for just this occasion.
2. Then follow it up with something a bit pleasanter.
3. Sing! Engaging the music makes this 90% better than just listening.
Hope this works for you! 🙂
P.S. If you already own the music, then this is really frugal, it costs the price of a CD-R or you can even just use your iTunes or Windows media player for your playlist. Or you can do what I did several years ago–buy the specific songs from iTunes. Or, um, burn friends’ CDs. But you didn’t hear it from me.